Marriage is like a lawsuit....

I have decided that marriage and engagement is much like the process of filing a lawsuit, or perhaps it should be. When you file a suit, you prepare the complaint, or petition, you basically ask that the lawsuit begin. This is engagement. But here's the real kicker, after you get engaged, women go nuts! They do not follow procedure per se, they run out and start planning the wedding. They throw caution to the wind and spend like mad women! Men stand idly by and say, well I'm not paying for this. (not that this happend in my own wedding, but in general).

What should happen is what comes next in a lawsuit: discovery. I truly beleive that each party (bride/groom) should engage in pretrial (or premarriage) discovery. There should be Request for Disclosures (RFD), Request for Production (RFP), Interrogatories, and yes Requests for Admissions (RFA). Just think of all the heartache this would save if each party simply, and civilly exchanged all the pertinent info: bank accounts, old girlfriends, potential baby daddys/mamas, crazy mothers, ex-con fathers... ya know the things come up in a marriage.

I mean think of the time in divorce court you could save if you simply gathered all the evidence beforehand and then mediated the problems prior to the big day! I think of all the seemingly little things that have come out in my first year of marriage that I wish I had known before. For the most part they are not huge issues, and we have worked through them, but I just think how much easier it would have been had this all been worked out before. And come on ladies, how many of you would love to take your fiance or husband's deposition? "Tell me the truth!!" (ok, maybe that is the baby lawyer speaking to me...) \

The point is, that sometimes I wish life were moderated and covered by civil rules (all your law kids cringe at the word Civil Procedure), but its called that for a reason, its to help make proceedings, well, more "civil." Simple thought of the day, before you say something cruel and unkind, or gesture, or write that scathing email, think would I want this to come out in court? Is this admissible against me? Gotta love the law! ~The Illegal Blonde