Trying Something New

I could recount all the mundane details of my weekend for you, as most bloggers do each Monday, or I can be real, honest, and raw with you my readers.

Things have been less than perfect in my life as of late, I'm sure you all have noticed the posts that have been less than sunshine and lollipops. Truth is, life is not all dandelions and ice cream with no calories attached. Truth is, marriage is work, work is work, maintaining a healthy lifestyle and weight is work, personal happiness is work. But the key is, nothing will work in your life if you are not seeking and finding personal happiness. YOU alone are the key to your life being a well-balanced machine.

Often we, and I mean women, try to find happiness by adapting to what we "think" men or the world want or expect of us. When we date we do what he likes to do, we wear what makes him happy and often forget what we need to make ourselves happy. We do this to attract me, or friends, or well just attract about anything. We look for what is missing or for approval in our personal lives through other people.

What we should be doing is focusing inward. Looking for personal satisfaction and growth. Having inner happiness and peace. When we are honest with what we need and want for ourselves then we can make good wives, mothers, mates, friends, etc... When we achieve personal happiness we excel in all other endeavours. When we listen to our inner needs, we become whole.

So, I have been trying something new. I have been looking for happiness from within. Removing toxic people and thoughts from my brain and life. Putting God first, letting him guide me from day-to-day has allowed me to see things from a different view. I'm not saying its easy and there are times when I would rather do what is easy or fun rather than what is right and good. I stumble daily. I falter and cry. Some days are good and others bad, but its all part of a journey.

I have put myself and my needs first. What do I like to do? What makes me happy and fulfilled? What relaxes me and rejuvenates me? What books ease my mind or make me think? What drives me?

I challenge all of you to try something new. Put you first, put your life into perspective. Take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are happy with you. Because you cannot make anyone else happy, you cannot fix or change anyone else, but you can make YOU the YOU.