Divorce Full-Court Press

It is no secret that half of all marriages end in divorce. I mean who has not heard of Kim Kardashian's infamous 72 day marriage to Kris Humphries. But when did divorce become "news?" People get divorced everyday and it is not glamourous, happy, or all about money. Reality TV and the ease of divorce seems to have lessened the bonds and vows of marriage. Every day you hear about celebrities and their short-lived marriages and their public spectacle divorces. Demie Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Heidi Klum and Seal, Kim K., even the gorgous Olivia Wilde. But why are we fascinated with this thing that ends what is supposed to be sacred?

The truth is divorce is expensive and not only monetarily, but its taxing on a person's emotions and family. Couples going through divorce start to fight over things they never cared about simply to feel like they won. That lamp that you hated, you now cannot live without, and where you never minded his poker nights, you now claim neglect and abandonment. Now, I know that sometimes divorce is the right choice. No one should be forced it live in violent or abusive conditions (either physical or emotional). And no person has to forgive someone who cheats on them. But what concerns me more, are the people who just suddenly realize they didn't think the whole marriage thing through. I admit, the transition from relationship to marriage is tough, especially the first year. But that doean't mean the whole marriage will be that way. So many people give up before they have really given it a try. A good marriage takes work. It should not be entered into lightly, but once you have you have the duty to really try and make it work.

I admit its hard to know what you are really getting into when you get married. No matter how long you date someone, there is just something different about being married. There is compromise and a certain period of getting used to each other. You are sharing everything with one person. You have to give up a little bit of your independance in order to make it work. I think this scares so many people. They jump in because they are in love, but then they are faced with living with the same person everyday and adjusting to that person's strengths and weaknesses. Even the most perfect couple will admit they have struggled at some point in their relationships.

Perhaps in today's world of instant gratification and on demand entertainment people can take the easy way out--divorce. It's easier to run from problems, rather than face them head on. I mean how many of you have start and ended a fight over text message or email rather than face to face because it was easier? Social media has allowed our society to become less about interpersonal relationships and intimate conversation. I am amazed at how much faster I can accomplish things by simply walking up to the person and getting the answer from them face-to-face.

 So I challenge you to not engage in the hype of divorce. Don't read the tabloids that expose someone else's pain. Think hard about it before you enter into the sacred bond of marriage. Try to solve problems or issues face to face. ~The Illegal Blonde