The Facts of Life

Yeah not the TV show, though I did love me some Trudy... I mean the actual facts. If you read yesterday's post you saw my positive Monday mantra... well this is quickly faded as the day wore on. My optimism turned glass empty in about zero to 60. I realized the people in general are negative (myself included).

They will find an opportunity to put you down or make that off-color remark that really gets under your skin and burns. So I tried to put the smile on and float through the glorious day, but man its hard when so much negative energy buzzes around you. The fact is life sucks sometimes. I know I know I should not put it so bluntly, but come on y'all, its true.

My day which began with a skinny mocha and smile quickly went to hair in a messy ugly topknot, two huge zits and my crying profusely on the way home. In fact, the more I drove the angrier I grew. The tears turned in yelling, teeth gritting anger. By the time I got home I was so angry I could barely think. I even yelled at my poor baby girl for jumping on me and scratching my leg, when all she wanted was some mommy love.

As I walked Chloe I tried to calm down and think about what got me all worked up. I realized it wasn't one thing, it was all the little things that culminated in the traffic hell in which I live. It was the fuss over my office, the lull in work, that hubs was travelling again, that I was tired, the next door neighbor's barking dog, the work stress, the volcano I call my face these days, turning 30, the construction which had a lane change and made me miss my exit and trek 5 miles down the highway turn around and sit in more traffic to re-exit.... ya see... this is life.

The fact is that once you graduate college and go into the world life catches up with you. Sure we have those moments of fun and carefree, but life these days is just stressful. If we are not worrying about deadlines or work product, we stress about finances and the economy. We avoid outings with friends because the cost of gas is such that driving into town becomes costly. We commute in congestion and traffic and just want to veg instead of cooking nutritious meals and exercising. Life has become so complex that its not fun anymore.

My husband put some things in perspective this morning though.... breathe. Take a deep breath and remember that at the end of the hellacious stressful awful no good terrible very bad day you are blessed. When all is said and done remember what you want out of life. Sure we would love to achieve success at work, make lots of money, have nice things, but no one will remember that awesome brief you wrote, how much you had in your bank account or the killer LV bag you toted. They will remember the smile you gave them, the compliment you paid and the embrace when thigs were rough.

So, don't let the facts of life dictate your life. Traffic may suck, your boss may suck, your job may suck (not that mine do, except the traffic things) but whatever it is that gets you down, leave it there. Focus on how you want to be remembered.